To Anyone Who is throwing a wedding, paying for a wedding, hosting a shower, reception, etc.:
- It is rude to ask for cash -- in any form, in any way, for any occassion (bridal, baby, engagement, graduation--anything).
Written, verbal, on the invite, in an email--it is rude. Don't do it. Not even in a stupid cutesy poem.
- It is crass to register for a honeymoon or new house --don't ask your guests to pay for your home or vacation. Rude, rude, rude.
- Registering for gifts is allowable. Technically, you're not supposed to put "Janie is registered at ____" on the invite. That said, so many people prefer knowing of a registry these days, so include a separate slip of paper listing the registry in the invite.